Despite the fact that the clitoris is one of the most pleasure-inducing parts of a woman’s body, using it to bring about pleasure still remains a mystery to both men and women alike. The clitoris is literally the only part of the body whose sole purpose is to be a pleasure zone!
While this little “button” may appear small, it actually extends behind the vulva and is directly connected to the G-spot “allegedly!” Furthermore, much like the penis, the clitoris also gets engorged once aroused, making the phrase “getting a hard on” applicable to both men and women.
A vast majority of women, up to 70%, require clitoral stimulation during intercourse to achieve orgasm, which makes knowing how to maneuver around this sensitive little area your most important move when it comes to sexual satisfaction. Here are a few things you should be doing in order to bring pleasure through the clitoris.
#1 Always remember: repetition.
Women’s bodies, specifically the clit, respond best to repetition. If you’re using circular motions and she’s getting into it, don’t start switching to up and down motions! Always pay attention to your woman’s responses to know which motions she’d like you to keep doing.
#2 Oral pleasures.
Many women respond strongly to oral sex and feel that this is the only way they can orgasm with their partner. Whether you’re simply looking to get her excited or you want to show her the final destination, oral is a great starting point.
I used to think the oral sex move of using your tongue to write the alphabet around your partner’s clit was just a joke – it’s no joke! This is a great way to make sure you’re moving your tongue around, and it’s also good for learning which movements your partner responds to best. Remember not to ignore other sensitive areas of the vulva, either. Lick around the thighs, lips, and opening “if she’s into that” to give her an even more tantalizing experience.
#3 Use your hands.
We know it’s important to find out what your partner likes, but it’s equally important to find out how she likes it. There are many different ways to touch the clitoris.
A couple of ways to stimulate it is by touching it with circular motions, with direct stimulation, massaging it while the hood is still over it, rubbing it between your thumb and forefinger or between the lips of the vagina, going up and down, using lube, or by practicing some other technique your girl has discovered. It should also be noted that if you’re bringing your hands anywhere near the vagina, make sure your nails are clipped and clean since unwanted bacteria can cause UTIs, which are super painful and totally not sexy.
#4 Friction through dry humping.
Friction is a much-needed friend to clitoral orgasms. While the name doesn’t scream hot and sexy, dry humping is an amazing way to please the clitoris. Get your girl on top of you and have her grind up against your penis. This is a great way for girls to achieve orgasm. Make sure you are both wearing underwear for maximum friction for her. You can do this with the missionary position as well, but it will be easier for her to navigate her pleasure zones if she’s on top.
A naked version of this can also be done, but it may start to get a little slippery! If you do this naked in cowgirl position and she gets too wet to stay on track, simply switch positions, grab your penis, and start rubbing it in circles around her clit. She’ll thank you for it!
#5 Intercourse.
After you’ve engaged in a long, exciting session of foreplay and have your girl wet and excited, you’re probably ready to get down to business: intercourse. For many women, it is very hard to orgasm during intercourse without clitoral stimulation. Here are some easy, sexy positions that offer great clitoral stimulation:
– Doggy style. In this position, you have the option to reach around and play with her clitoris, or give her the opportunity to play with herself using her fingers or a sex toy.
– Missionary – CAT position. This is a great position for clitoral stimulation. Get in regular missionary position and then move above her, so that your pelvis is grinding against her clit as you thrust. Many women love this position for having orgasms from intercourse.
– Girl on top. This position is great, whether she is in cowgirl or reverse cowgirl, as she has the opportunity to find the best position for her to grind her clitoris against you and reach orgasm. If she’s the bouncing type, you can also use your thumb on her clitoris as she does her thing.
#6 Sex toys.
When in doubt, use a sex toy! A pocket rocket is a great toy to incorporate into your sex life as it’s not intimidating and is small enough that you can use it on your partner’s clit while you’re inside her or during foreplay to get her all riled up.
